"So, How Good Is Your Tea?"
Posted on 19 January 2016
As most of you know Neon Moon has its very first office! The greatest way to start 2016... which was shot down within minutes of arriving. Let me take you on a journey as we delve into the realms of sexism.
It was a seriously exciting morning for myself and the amazing Neon Moon team, as we had literally created Neon Moon from nothing into something, and now have our very own premises. We travelled on the underground with our plants, storage spaces and amazing feminist lingerie, all perfectly packaged and wrapped. We reminisced about 2015 and our high goals and aspirations for Neon Moon in 2016!
We arrived at our new offices in central London and still loved it ever since our first viewing. High ceilings, amazing community, tremendous atmosphere, all to literally be shot down within 5 minutes. We chose our office space amongst others who were also moving in at the same time, and were introduced to another business who have already worked in our building for some time. As the CEO and Founder of Neon Moon, I love to network and so I introduced myself, and said hello. So just as you're expecting, I was waiting to hear a hello back and possibly a welcoming message. BUT OH NO HUNNY. OH NO. All I got was a "So, how good is your tea?". My team and I were so shocked and livid at the exact same time that they didn't know how to respond because we spent a month organising ourselves for our move in date, and also we had literally just arrived!! Understandably my team didn't comment, but to hell with it, I jumped on the end of his sentence and snapped back with "How's yours?" - and ofcourse no reply. His team were laughing at my response in jest, but I saw and still to this day see no humour in it. How dare some man who I've never met before, dismiss all of my and my amazing teams credibility and work effort on the basis that we're women that should essentially just be around in an office to make tea. We never received an apology, or any acknowledgement that he was ever wrong to say that. So I realised something.
Women have it tough regardless of how much effort you give, whatever role you're in, whatever age you are, and wherever you are. Women of colour have it the worst of all, and it's disgusting when sexists can't see beyond the physical. I have never been so insulted, and especially infront of my team. We have actually used this guys gross comment in motivation to kick-arse, and annoy him with our feminist awesomeness! This is exactly what we're fighting, and no wonder there aren't many women business owners, because we are constantly judged, mocked, bitched about, and ultimately undermined. Well we say NO. MORE.
Neon Moon will never stop being here for women and LGBT+ who have been undermined by sexists in society, and made to feel lesser of a person because of it. That guy probably thought he could shake us up or make us feel uncomfortable, or even decide to leave. Hell no. We're staying put. And we're even more motivated by seeing that guys face every day in order to push equality to all. We are strong, and we will never give up. All of us together as a community will defy the odds, and create change not only in the lingerie world but social change across the entire world! Because We Deserve Better!
Have you ever had to deal with sexists at work, home, or your personal life? Have you ever been judged purely on the way you look on first glace? Let us know below!
Hayat Rachi is the CEO & Founder of Neon Moon. She is Moroccan and loves chatting about cat videos over coffee. She is an avid feminist and body positive activist.